Pasrah & redha bring a totally different meanings to me ... Bile the consequences are laid clearly in front of you, somehow you have to make a decision & deal with the consequences - that's when you apply redha ... To me redha are way better than being pasrah, since you still have control on the situation ...
Tapi bile pasrah, most probably you will say - "whatever happen next, I'll accept the consequences" ... & most probably (lagi), you don't even know what the consequences the 'whatever happen next' may cause you ... Ok, too much of going around the bush I guess ... :D
Let's get down & dirty on the sensitive issue - JODOH ... & kali ni, it's about being pasrah atau redha ?? I'll share my stories, you decide for yourself ... Which one your prefer the most, being pasrah atau redha ...
Pasrah: Case of Study No.1
You have a boyfriend for 5years now, since it's been 5years ... You know everything about you partner ... His sleeping habits, pukul brape die bangun ... His favorite food, or maybe a sentimental item he failed to ditch from his previous relationship ...
So you're about to get married, somehow there's some issue that you can't tolerate ... Mulut ckp, "takpe, I terima yuh seadanya" ... Somehow deep inside you still wish, someday he'll change ...
Pasrah: Case of Study No.2
Ade 2 pilihan Tuhan bagi depan mata, satu hensem cam Aaron Ajis ... Keje biase2 je, kalau tgk wayang dpt merase duduk kapel seat time special occasion je ... Sorang tu engineer, balik dekat nak Magrib ... Kotor, mcm2 bau ade ... Sebab membanting tulang keje, mencari rezeki yg halal utk family ... Mintak iPhone, flat screen sumer dpt ...
Then you choose the engineer, sebab he's going to provide a better education for your kids ... Tutup mate la, tak payah pikir what kind of life you may have with klon Aaron Ajis (padahal aku dah malas nak elaborate) ...
Redha: Case of Study No.1
You choose to marry your 3years boyfriend, who earn an entry level exec's pay ... You might not have your dream wedding, but your marrying your dream husband ...
You know life won't get easy for the 1st few years, nak set up rumah ... Family,new born ... You might not have everything on the list that you have been dreaming of ... Tapi redha ...
Redha: Case of Study No.2
You have your heart for someone else, somehow you choose to marry another guy/girl because it's time ... Kalau tak kawin in few years, takut time to produce babies ... Or parents dah sakit, nak tgk anak perempuan dia terjaga by someone yg bole diharap ...
So kawin jugak ... Walaupun xbape sayang, tapi redha ... Have faith that this might be the best that might happen, dah tertulis perjalanan hidup tu sebegitu ...
No matter what the position you're in, yg penting adalah hati ... Ikhlas kan hati, for instant bile anda rasa redha je nak kawin dgn someone yg bukan your 1st choice ... Make sure hati tu ikhlas, jgn kawin tapi masih t'kenang2 kan your 1st choice ...
Or when you marry the hard working engineer, stop thinking about how you might end up wif Aaron Ajis ... Maybe one day Aaron Ajis can establish a business & earn more than the engineer do ... So ikhlas kan hati, terima hakikat itu rezeki dia & family dia ... Bukan simpan thoughts, "it should be me standing right next to him" ...
Saya pun masih bnyk lagi pending item dlm list utk diikhlas kan ... Actually tak bnyk, haha ... Just a few item, but major ... Give it sometime, & don't forget to pray ... All I know, life is so much better when you hold no grudge upon someone else ... Even your mind is thinking straight, & you're sure that the person deserve it ...
Cerita ni tade kene mengena dgn calon jodoh saye at the moment, just terasa caught up in the position of pasrah (totally different topic) earlier & this is the best way to put things in word ...
Good nite all ~
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