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Thursday, February 9, 2012

How To Know, He's Not THE ONE

Good morning, what a refreshing week for those working in Selangor ... Hehe, I managed go to Kerteh on Monday ... Visit my 2nd family there, saje kacau2 dorang ... Show off aku tak keje, haha ... But it was a fun day for me ... Nanti I'll make another entry about that, because it was the best day I had yet ... So far this year ...

Title related, over ntah bape belas failed relationship ni ... I pick up a few confirm signs, about perangai2 lelaki ... That u should be aware of, & I can be 80% confirmed that it's demn true ... Sebab I've been thru 2similar cases last year, cume watak2 adalah b'beza ... Name dirahsiakan, & sorry KA & FA kalau terasa ... Since it's still hot & new, hehe ...

1. When He Hit You


Don't worry, neither KA or FA ever hit me ... But I've been emphasizing this since day 1 aku start blogging, or even earlier than that ... Kaki pukul bukan lah calon suami ideal, walaupun die tak sengaje ... Let's say, t'siku sebab tindakan reflect ... Sengaje atau tidak, pukul perempuan itu tidak cool ... Period ... I've been thru an event, aku kene baling almari oleh seorang b'name lelaki ... What I learnt from that - I know I can definitely take a hit, meaning kalau laki aku abuse aku ... I'm sure aku bole tahan kene tampar or kene humban dgn handphone ... But I choose not to, settle down for a life like that ...

2. When He Ask You for Money


Real gentlemen, don't take money from the ladies ... Mcm mane susah pun, someone u put faith on to be ur children's father shouldn't ask you for money ... Biler u ade rezeki lebih, nak blanjer gi makan mahal2 ... That's a different thing ... Even tok kadi yg nikah kan my kazen said, "Duit bini, xbole mintak ... Tapi kalau die bagi, ambek" ... So when he started to say, "U dah gaji kan ?? Bagi I 2ratus, I tade duit ni" ... That means he have no intention of marrying u, but he's keeping u around for his rainy days ...

3. When He Ask for Your Nude Photo


Biler a guy, ikhlas nak b'kawan with a good intention ... He'll never ask for nude photos, 3g phone sex whatsoever ... Get urself to think girls, booty calls ... & segala yg lucah2 itu, itu ade lah tanggungjawap scandals ... If u're expecting to be treat like a gf, then don't low urself & entertain him ... Takut die carik gf lain ?? Let it be, most probably memang dah ade pun ... So when ur bf start to ask for those, leave because he's not serious ... A guy shud respect you enough, if he picture u as the mother of his children ...

4. When He Let You Drive


Sorry FA, but dulu I ikhlas drive sebab I je yg ade valid license ... Haha ... Face the fact, when slept all the way ... & let u drive 3hundreds km away, u're definitely not on the top of his priority list ... My AQ ?? I just drive 200km pegi balik pun, he took the wheel ... Even I'm a better driver than he is, hehe ... So lucky me, it's a crystal clear comparison ... How much AQ cares, & why I should not put KA anywhere in my priority list ...

5. When He Let You Do What You Want


Ko ckp, "Abe, I nak gi clubbing ... Befday N" ... & he said, "ok" ... Tu makne nyer, die dah xkesah ape nak jadik kat ko ... Auuccchhh, kannn ?? But that's the truth, when he cares ... Kau ckp la, "I nak pegi Penang, Z nak blanjer ... Fully sponsored" ... Die akan ckp, "jgn pegi" ... Biler ko ckp nak pegi clubbing, janji la mcm mane pun ... 'I tak joget, I tak smoke' ... The answer should always be 'NO', no matter what ... Kalau die bagi je, xkesah ... Start looking for a new one yahhh, hehe ...

6. When He Started To Lie


When he lie to you, even if it doesn't involve someone else ... Mcm die tak keje, somehow die nak hide his activities (even die lepak2 dgn member jek pun) from u ... He just jump into conclusion, said 'lying is the best way' ... There must be something wrong there ... Being next to each other should make you feel comfortable, complete ... When he lie, that's mean he's not comfortable being around you ... My advice - leave ... Because he'll keep lying, again & again ...

7. When He Hides You from His Family & Friends


Nak kene explain ke ?? Maybe to meet the parents tu, agak tak relevant biler kau baru kenal 2bln kan ?? But when he denies you in front of his colleagues, especially from work ... Indirectly it means - 'kau tak cukup bagus utk die destroy his reputation at work standing next to u' ... Dlm fb pun buat tatau jek, jage saham kat awek2 dlm his friendlist ... How clearer shud I be ?? Most probably he keeps you around utk geli2 jek ...

8. When He Stops Investing


Ni includes time & money ... When he stop spending his time wif u, or text u sipi2 jek ... When u're bed rest sick, the most he will say - "I hope u get well soon" ... That's mean, u're not worth to waste his time/money on ... Sebab long term, die dah tak nampak u guys' future together ... So he won't put in any more effort, he'll take it easy ... In other hand, he's trying to let u off the hook little by little ... Less calls, less dates ... Dgn harapan, lame2 it's gone ... Bile2 die perlu, die carik ko balik ... U should know better how to handle that, aite ??

I hope it help ... This is a few things that I picked up along the way, tak semesti nye KA do every single thing listed ... Ade jugak a few yg FA buat dulu, then repeated by KA ... By then I'm sure KA pun not for me, somehow I still believe in 2nd chance ... But life is about learning, & it never stops ...

It's all go back to the bottom of ur heart, once I said - "Kalau dah nak tu, dah tau dah c polan ni kaki pompuan ... Tapi degil, nak jugak kan" ?? It depends on individuals' tolerance & patience, ade org bole sabar kalau bf die tak call or tak sms seminggu ... Mcm aku, xbole ... 2minggu hari sudah cukup utk membuat kan aku meroyan hati ini tabah & move on, hahah ... Yup, dgn kate lain - in average, lepas 2weeks aku akan ade bf lain ...

I better stop, sebab confident level aku melimpah ruah skarang ... Keje puji diri sendiri jek, aku pun rimas ... Hahahahahhaahah ... Xde niat nak kutuk sesape dlm post ini, a few things listed pun kalau aku bace balik ... Kene kat batang hidung sendiri, heh ... It's just a few of my experience that I feel worth to share, what's hidden under the sweet lines lelaki2 buaye ...

Nite ~

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Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Managing the Break Up: Part I

I've been thru an average of 3break ups a year, hahah ... Mesti korang nak ckp, "sampai biler" ... Or secare kasar nyer, "How can you be so stupid, & sampai biler nak learnt" ?? Come on, I can deal wif that ... That's reality check ... So let's not mess this up wif my counting, lemme share what happened on a few days after I broke up ...

Delete All Excess

This is standard procedure, delete fb ... Delete bbm, delete twittter ... In my case, abe ade gf lain ... So, kenape perlu kan delete ?? Instead of berpura-pura cool buat mcm tade pape ?? Sebab aku tanak tgk any hapdet from him & his gf ... & sebab aku gedik, suke hapdet location thru bbm status ... So aku delete him from bbm jugak ... Motif ?? It's one way or another, aku pun tanak die tau mane aku pegi ...

Example: Biler aku buat cupcakes utk lobi potential bf, mesti la aku nak upload my cupcakes kat fb ... Because of the cupcakes kan ?? Bukan sebab the potential bf, cehhh ... Hahah ... Anyway, I don't want him to see that ...

Get Over Your Biggest Fear

We used to say, "I will suffer without you" ... So, get over that ... I put on the shirt we bought together kat Rantau Panjang, & the skirt he bought for me ... The whole day, right after break up ... Ade tak ko nak t'kenang2 ?? Or sikit2 nak cium, ade bau kedai lagi tak kan ?? For me, it went just fine ... Thanks to AQ sebab kept me company, until ... Die gatai tgn pegi msg aku balik kan ... Ok, tu nanti elaborate more on next point ...

Example: Tada, hak hak ... (gambar xbleh haplot plak)

Get Sentimental

How sentimental can you be ?? Aku memang giler sentimental nyer, the 1st hundred notes yang abe bagi aku simpan ... Tapi sebab 1st movie ombak rindu, so aku tak simpan tiket wayang ... In case it's a fail relationship kan, nanti emo2 mcm dlm movie ... Too bad for me, aku tade cincin mahal yg tak sanggup nak baling cam Lisa Surihani dlm citer tu ... Hahah ...

Example: Aku pakai duit yg sentimental sgt tu, shopping ... The best part is, shopping beli baju baru nak gi dating dgn potential bf ?? Revenge is the sweetest thing ?? Takdo makne nye, biler mlm nanti ko hingat kat die balik ... But to me there's 2things here, 1st - get rid of the sentimental items ... 2nd - tenang hati aku dapat shopping ... Owh yahhh, almost forgot ... The other half of the hundred, aku pakai utk beli ingredient cupcakes for potential bf ... S#!t ...

Spend Time B'sama Orang yg T'sayang

This is important, you need someone by urside ... Mcmm aku, mek (gf my brother) slalu ikut dating sampai KT ... So, die sangat memahami segala liku2 dlm my relationship ... Biler sebut pasal abe finally kantoi pegi dating kat Kuantan ... Mek trus ngamuk sakan, hahah ... Ilek mek, ilek ...

Bukan xmo share dgn my mum, or adik cherry ... But I don't wanna break my mum's heart, since die suke sgt kat abe ... Biler aku ckp aku nak gi jumpe abe baru, bole nampak la reaksi kurang selesa ibu saya di situ ... Tapi masih mengekalkan concept yg same, no sad stories ... Xdo eh den nak cito kek omak den perangai ex boipren den tu, kire what passed is passed jek la ... We, all of us (including my family) move on je ... Hokay ??

Example: Gi alamanda, shopping bersama mek + adik lelaki + adik lelaki ... & buat cupcakes bersame mek ...

Don't Get In Touch wif Him or Anyone Related

Trust me, memang korang raser it's the greatest revenge biler ko ngorat bff ex boipren ko ... But it's going to hurt more in future ... Why do I said so ?? Sebab been there, done that ...

Memang la aku lepak dgn member2 (lelaki of course) utk menghilangkan stress ... Tapi lelaki ni, biler jumpe member ... He forgets everything else ... Like he forget kau ade kat seblah,, die men blasah jek citer ngan kengkawan die what happened in Vegas ... Memang la niat ko nak lepak2, hav fun & bukan nye nak korek rahsia ... Somehow kau akan tau, ape yg kau tak tau ... Sebab cerita2 yg t'kongsi bersame itu ...

Example: Biler aku lepak dgn FA, dr elok2 aku tatau what happened for the past 6months ... Tibe2 aku t'hapdet, because adrenalin penceritaan yg rancak ... Hehe, jan risau FA ... I still love u, but not like that ... Heh ...

Enough with that, next post ... I'm going to share wif you guys, how to know when he's not the one ... & if there's anything more to share on this, I'll update it in part 2 ... I'm still fine, emosi masih terkawal ... You guys enjoy the rest of this holiday, I'll get better in time ...

Last but not least, thanks for all the best wishes ...

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Things About Me: Part IV - Another Break Up

Hoyehhh, aku tukar bf lagi ... Laju giler hapdet, hak hak ... But this is a general update la, so that people who care ... & generously pouring advises on me, well informed of my current status ... I really appreciate korang nyer advice, cume kadang2 emo sendiri kerana stress ... Please forgive me, kalau tibe2 t'marah ... Or tibe2 I went silent, xreply ur text/bbm/wassapp ...

So I officially left KA, for my own good ... Bukan sebab aku dah ade AG AQ (cait, camne bole sala ni), or aku pegi jumpe FA & he called me darling ... Heh, bukan2 ... Sebab kepentingan diri sendiri terlalu bnyk terabai sebulan ni, it's time for me to treat myself better ... Details ?? Xdo ehhh den nak publish sumer kek cni ...

Nak gossip, siler call or bbm ... Heh ...

Forget he's a good husband, forget my mum really likes him ... When it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be ... & aku xde la desperate sgt, like some other people tu ckp - aku desperate sgt nak kawen sebab tade org nak kat aku ... I'm willing to take the risk, leave everything I have & start fresh ... When I'm not happy, I'll leave ... Bukan stay, makan hati every now & then ... Utk happy ending yg aku sendiri tak pasti ...

Part of it, I'm dealing wif my biggest fear ... So I know, that bukan sebab barang aku worth 5k kat rumah die ... Or bukan my superstitious believe over the sequences of signs that I got from my own judgement yg make me stay all these while ...

For the other side of support team, yg percaye I shud perjuang kan my love ... I'm sorry, bukan xmakan saman dgn ur advice ... But I've done begging, tolerating ... Sumer dah ... I cudn't find my ego at some point ... I've tried for a month now,  now it's time already ...

Xde citer sedih nak share2 d cni, nanti I'll update camne I deal wif the break up ... Buat mase ni I'm fine, ikut lagu fav adik Cherry pun ... Dah puas menangis semalam, heh ... Rite now, dunno how to smile & tell my mum - "Mak, I nak tukar abe baru ... Bole" ?? Demn ...

Till then, please don't worry 'bout me I'm fine (pastu korang sambung nyanyi lagu Neyo ramai2, heh) ...

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